Carole Carnie “From My Heart to Your Heart: Episode #2

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Look For, Expect, And Know When God is Opening a Door: by Carole Carnie

Carole Carnie and Lisa Daggs.
Carole Carnie and Lisa Daggs

Today I must share while my emotions are still raw, real, honest, and authentic! There has been so many major changes in JC’s and my life, that at times it’s difficult to see clearly, or think clearly! It’s been challenging to keep the noise out. The noise being anything, or anyone that could potentially distract either of us from keeping our sights on the “mark,” Jesus! We have intentionally surrounded ourselves with our most trusted friends, “only!” These are godly individuals who continues to encourage us to spiritually stay strong, to trust in God’s sovereignty, and to never stop serving God with passion, and excellence! Keeping that invaluable advice in the forefront of all we do, has served to bathe our very souls with the love, and comfort of our Lord! We have our agenda and plans, and God has His plans for our lives! But as always, His plans are much better than ours! So, needless to say the Carnies are willingly allowing God’s plans to trump ours!

We have shared recently, that we strongly believe that God is calling JC, and me to expand the “Carnie Ministry” to include the “Carole Carnie Ministry.” We have painstakingly outlined our dreams, goals, aspirations, as well as a timeline on when we could reasonably expect to accomplish tpic2hese objectives. If I must say so myself, we have created a thorough plan! This plan even takes into account the learning curve which will be necessary in order for this “new baby,” (Carole Carnie Ministry) to be birthed! Having a “preemie” could be devastating for the newest addition to our “ministry” family. However, like with all births, there is pain to be expected; but the “bundle of joy” which is the reward at the end of all births, makes the pain tolerable! Please join us in prayer as we patiently wait on God to reveal what this ministry will eventually become. Ok, “honesty check,” JC will be waiting patiently, I will be screaming and hollering. Keeping it real!

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I am extremely grateful for the knowledge, vision, and expertise JC brings to our newest ministry  upstart. Because he has been in this business for a while, (independently, and in the church) he has built, and maintained relationships with many individuals who are still in the music industry . This allows JC to comfortably navigate through what needs to take place in order for our “baby girl” to have a fighting chance at “life.”

Last evening, due to JC’s persistence, and patience, Lisa Daggs from the “FISH” radio station called to ask if I would be available for an interview Wednesday. She wanted me to share my testimony on her show, Reality Check, to be aired on Sunday 19, at 7pm. till 8 pm. I’m still praising God for over ruling the Carnie’s plans by opening doors much sooner than we had scheduled. Oh well, so our timeline is a bit off!

Before taping the interview, I had a pre-session with Lisa Daggs to go over what I could expect during the interview, as well as for her to get a feel for me, and my story! From the moment we spoke, there was a “heart connection.” We were instantly sharing, and feeling each other’s pain, because we had both suffered. During our conversation we realized that our lives had crossed paths over twenty years ago, when we were both starting out in our perspective ministries. We marveled over the fact that after so many years, there was only a hand full of us still working in ministry. We both agreed, that it is because ministry is a “calling” in our lives, it is much more than what we do. I can’t wait to continue the connection between Lisa and I. You are invited to listen to what promises to be an inspiring story of how God changed my life to be used for His glory. The Carnies are living the “faith” that they sing about, the “faith” that is alive and well in their lives! We looked for, expected, and knew when God was opening a door, “the Fish interview.”

From My Heart to Your Heart

Carole Carnie

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THE CROSS vs The FLAG: by Carole Carnie

Recently, there has been much debate over whether to remove the Confederate flag from the Statehouse grounds in South Carolina. Being a critical thinker, I will exercise disciplined clear thinking. I will wholeheartedly strive to be rational, open-minded, and base my position on informed evidence only. Understanding the sensitively of this issue, and desiring to respect both viewpoints, the objective of this blog is to add a positive voice to this social intercourse. I’m expecting that it will bring clarity, and a better understanding of this highly emotional, super charged, and passionate interchange!

Allow me to emphasize, that this blog is not being written with the intent of changing anyone’s stand on this controversial topic. Neither is it being written to condemn, or judge your position. I’m too wise of an individual to assume God’s position of judgement, “judgement is for God, and God alone!”

My only goal is to present the facts as known to me, hopefully furnishing you with the information needed for you to make an informed, and intelligent decision, utilizing your God given right, “the freedom of choice!” For me, any choice I make must align itself with my core values, which are governed by the “word” of God. That is not to be confused with being in line with a popular viewpoint, or confused with being in align with my emotions! Oftentimes, I must readjust my emotions so that they are in alignment with the “word” of God! This ministry does not intend to shy away from difficult issues. I firmly believe that by confronting our challenges head on, it serves to give us a better understanding of one another, which only serves to bring us closer, making for healthier relationships! Healthier relationships, foster healthier churches! Okay here we go! We can do this if we keep at the forefront of this controversy, love, harmony, and respect for every individual, and every viewpoint. Let’s remove this “elephant” out of the room! 

America’s history is steeped in the cruelty of the slavery of Blacks. Today, most Americans would agree that our past brings much sadness, guilt, and great shame! The majority of Americans feel tremendous compassion, and empathy for those who were enslaved. But then, there are those who have no regard for the suffering, and pain “slavery” has caused Blacks in this country; those are not the individuals I am speaking to. I am addressing those individuals who are sincerely interested in how their position may, or may not affect others. I do not claim to be a scholar on the subject of the Civil War, and I am confident that many who are “shouting” their opinions concerning this topic, are not scholars either. Please, if I may bring this to your attention, the definition of opinion is, ” a judgement that rest on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.” With that being said, in my attempt to write responsibly, I did some research on the Civil War to ensure that the information that is being shared is as accurate as possible. However, to this day there is still conflict between scholars regarding the reasons for this war.

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Art work by J. Carnie “Picking Cotten”.

One thing that we all can agree on though, is that the reasons for the Civil War are extremely complicated, and complexed. There were many contributing factors for why this battle was waged. However, for the benefit of this blog, I will be citing only two of the documented reasons for this conflict. I’ve chosen to use these two reasons because they are the most agreed upon reasons for the Civil War;  and those reasons are, “to continue slavery, and money! The slave industry was a big “economic business.” President Lincoln was  against slavery, he believed it to be immoral! Cotton was the cheapest crop to grow, bringing in the greatest revenue for slave owners. When the cotton gin was invented by Eli Whitney, it revolutionized the cotton industry, it meant that cotton could be picked faster. Which meant you could plant more, which meant you needed more slaves to harvest the crop, which in effect meant greater profits. So, when Lincoln was speaking against slavery, he was threatening the very profitable economic business of the south. Simply stated, the Civil War was both about slavery, and money!  The slaves were crucial to the money that could be made!

Because the Confederates were outnumbered by approximately two to one by the Union soldiers, their war casualties were great. It is understandable why they take great pride in the flag that their loved ones willingly gave their lives for. These were real people, with real families, who sacrificed their lives for what they believed in. Remember, it was a different era, which held different social values than we hold today. So, our challenge is to resist judging our past by the standards of today. For those who lost so much, “the lives of their loved ones, they see the honor in the act of their loved ones dying for what they believed in. I get it! I may not agree in their cause, “slavery, but in believe in their principles. Many of us would not die for a cause we know is worthy of giving our lives for, “our faith!” For me, it’s clear why the Confederate flag is held in high esteem by Southerners. It is estimated that a total of 180,000.00 Americans lost their lives in the Civil War!

On the other side of this controversy, Blacks fought and gave their lives for that same war. Now imagine with me if you will, that those slaves were fighting for their very existence! They must have known that they were in the fight of “their lives!” They had to be aware of the fact that if the North did not win this battle, they would be forced to return to their dreadful existence.Those men must have fought with zeal! They too were real people, with real families, who sacrificed their lives for what they believed in. I get it! For me, it’s clear why the Confederate flag is not held in high regard by Blacks. It is recorded that, (to the best of their record keeping of Blacks) an estimate of 40,000,00 Blacks lost their lives in the Civil War.

The Confederate flag, also known as the “Stars and Bars” was created to represent the Southern states that seceded from the Union in 1860-61 to form the  Confederate States of America. The first flag was created in March 4, 1861 (first 7-star version), and in November 28, 1861(final 13 star version). Between 1861 and 1865 four flags were created for the confederacy. The states which were part of the confederacy were, South Carolina, who is today in the forefront of the battle over the Confederate flag, and who was also in the forefront of leading the Civil War. It’s understandable why today South Carolina is a leading advocate for leaving the flag as is. The other Southern states were, Mississippi, Georgia, Alabama, Georgia, Louisiana, and Texas. With our very basic refresher course in the Civil War completed, let’s attempt to make sense of the basis for all the passion surrounding the Confederate flag. Now, allow me to express my thoughts regarding the Confederate flag, with the understanding that my ancestors were the benefactors of slavery, and that my perspective is coming from that reference point. JC and I both still have living family members who picked cotton. JC’s family is from Mississippi, and my family is from Florida. We both have first hand accounts of the painful symbolism of the Confederate flag.

Our history is just that, our history, good or bad! We as Americans have come through some horrific times ‘together.” Yes, we are in this together! What gives me hope, is that we will use our past to convict us of where we want to go in the future, and to remind us of where we do not want to return. We owe the next generation a better tomorrow! Yes, we have come a long way, but we have a long ways to go!  The Bible says, “the race is not to the swift, or strong, but to those who endure to the end.” None of us can take responsibility for our forefathers, but we are most certainly responsible for our actions today.

I often say, ”when you know better, you do better!” For me, this is very clear. I’m not concerned with being right in this situation, I desire is to do right! As our history has proven to us, both sides have valid reasons for the positions they take. But today we know better, today we must do better, we should live by the standards of today; not be held slaves to yesteryears injustices! As a Christian, the symbol which drives all that I do, and all that I am, is the “Cross” For me, all else pales to the “Cross.” It shall forever guide me in the decisions, positions, and choices I make in my life. People are more important to me than symbols. Yes, there are those who died for the the Civil War, on both sides! As I witness churches being burned down around this issue, one thing I know for sure, is that I would rather be on the side of the “Cross,”than not; “because I know what it stands for at all times,” love, compassion, peace, and the pursuit of happiness for all. Written with the upmost respect, and love!

From My Heart to Your Heart

Carole Carnie

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A Love Letter to My Main Man: by Carole Carnie

It’s 4 a.m. Sunday morning, and already I’m yearning for some alone time before we head off to the church. As always, I expect that once we arrive for worship you will no longer be “all” mine! You are so reliable, like clockwork you are precise and dependable, you are never late! No matter how many individuals you support durning the week, each Sunday you tirelessly usher the congregation into the presence of “Your Father.” That’s what I love most about you, “your dedication to “Our Father.”Before I was completely awake this morning, and before I even opened my eyes, just the thought of you made my heart skip a beat. When I finally awakened, the first image I saw was yours, and it was clear that I was exactly where I was meant to be, “next to you!”  Undeniably I am a blessed woman!

As I began to rustle out of bed, I paused for a moment, wanting to get one last glimpse of you before we started our day. Even with your responsibilities of attending to the needs of others, you still check on me from time to time to ensure me that I am loved. You always make yourself available to me, you are never too busy to hear my desires. You listen as if I am your only interest, and when I express my concerns regarding “our sons,” you reassure me that they will be just fine! Throughout the day all I need to do is think about you, and a calm immediately comes over me. Then my heart skips a beat, because of the overwhelming joy I’m feeling at that very moment. I then think, I can hardly wait until this day is over so we can share some quite, private time together. I long to nestle comfortably in your strong arms, and feel protected against the world. I love you more than the first time we met, you are my greatest love!

I look tenderly at you, thankful that your face was the first thing I saw this morning, and blessed that it is last thing I will see before falling asleep. I pray you are in my dreams! I love you with all my being, and I hope you feel the same about me. Good night Jesus ! A love letter from your daughter, Carole.

From My Heart to Your Heart,

Carole Carnie

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Getaway: by Carole Carnie

Everyone should have a place to go, a place to escape to, or a place to retreat to in an attempt to obtain peace, and tranquility in their lives. I believe “getaways” are essential for our well-being. At times, life can feel like you are in a “war,” like you are in a fight for your very existence, that’s why I consider the word “retreat” as the most accurate word to describe getaways!

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City of Carmel by the Sea

For those who may feel that I’ve exaggerated the importance of “getting away,” that could be because you have never experienced a situation which has overwhelmed you to the point that you feel like it could devastate you. I assert to you that getting away feeds your sole in good, or bad times!  It contributes to your “well-being,” building your emotional reserves for those times when you feel emotionally depleted. However, for the sake of this conversation, those of you who have experienced, or you are presently experiencing difficulty in your lives, I highly recommend that you designate a space, place, or location that you use for “your” place of refuge.

JC and I go to Carmel, California when we feel we need emotional, or spiritual rejuvenation. We also have several places in our home, and outside that we utilize when we aren’t able to get away. Monday, JC and I drove to Carmel for several reasons, first, for the purpose of connecting with God to seek direction for important decisions we are currently faced with. Secondly, because Carmel is a place that brings JC and I a sense of calm and harmony in our lives. Additionally, it’s a place where we are able to connect more deeply with each another. When our son’s were younger, and we went to Carmel, they would giggle amongst themselves and say, “mom and dad are going to Carmel to fall in love all over again.” If you are looking to become more centered, both emotionally and spiritually, start incorporating “getaways” into your lifestyle.

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The Carnie’s backyard

Even God knew the importance of rest, He created the world in six days, and rested on the seventh day. Jesus also understood and respected the significance of getting away, remember  Gethsemane? Jesus was in anguish about the events that were about to happen. He prayed to God to release Him from the terrible future that awaited Him. However, after spending time alone in prayer, gaining clarity and prospective, He accepted His fate and faced the soldiers who came to arrest Him. JC and I take advantage of the benefits of getting away even when things are going well in our lives. For us, it keeps us focused, we tend to see things more clearly, and like Jesus it allows us to be more accepting of life’s difficulties, which allows us to be better servants of God. Connecting with yourself, allows you to better connect with God! Retreating to a place where you are able to escape, if only for moment, is so underrated, however it is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

So, when life becomes somewhat challenging or overwhelming, step away from it for a while, to get refreshed, and to gain a different perspective; so when you step back into your world, you are better equipped to deal with whatever life hands you.

From My Heart to Your Heart!

Carole Carnie

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CHARLESTON – Face it, to Erase it!: by Carole Carnie

My heart is heavy because it is feeling the weight of all the offensive, and evil acts which are being reported much too often in the media. Allow me to be perfectly clear about my statement that, ” these incidences are being reported much too often.” I’m not saying that these morally revolting attacks against Blacks should not be reported, like it’s been said by some.” The notion that the media is sensationalizing these “violent acts” in an attempt to get our interest, which would cause strong reactions; that these offenses against “Blacks” are being exaggerated in hopes of increasing the networks ratings, for many of us is acerb at best! For us, it offends our sensibilities. The problem for me with taking a position such as this one is, “exaggerated or not,” one act of violence against “any” human being is too much, period!  Hate driven crime should cause all decent people to have a desire to invoke change! There should be an outcry throughout our nation, and I dare to say, “especially in our churches;” which stands for moral rightness!

The Charleston shooting is striking a nerve with most of us because it happened in a sacred place, a place of veneration, a place of reverence, a church! A predator walked into a “house of worship,” was welcomed with acceptance and love, and then murdered in cold blood individuals he had moments prior shared scripture with. I just can’t wrap my brain, or my heart around this atrocious act.  However, I’m hopeful that this egregious, flagrant, and evil act is enough to get “all” of us off the sidelines when it comes to speaking out against racism. We must begin healthy conversations about the disparity of treatment against any group of people. Let’s no longer allow this “evil” to divide us. Let’s no longer empower “evil” with our silence. Let’s have the courage to engage in healthy dialog with one another, attempting to better understand our differences, which can lead to a closer “authentic” relationship, which then can lead to the ultimate payoff for our efforts; ” love, understanding, and respect for one another. This would IMG_2811be living proof that the greatest of all God’s Commandments is, “love.”

Recently I tweeted, “Face it, to Erase it.” In order for us to “erase” racism, we must first “acknowledge” that it is alive and well. I know this is not an easy issue to speak about, in fact it is most likely one of the more difficult discussions to take place between Whites, and Blacks. This statement is not to exclude the importance, or the value that other ethnic groups may have to contribute to this issue, but only to point out that there is a horrific history when it comes to race relations between Whites, and Blacks in this country. With that being said, we can create a new history for ourselves moving forward. A future which embraces the principle, “when you know better, you do better.” We can’t erase the past, however we can bring into existence a better future. It begins with our willingness to start the healing process by talking to one another, not at one another; and the worst culprit is not talking at all!

Many of you are having conversations about what is occurring, however because of the sensitivity, and the uncomfortableness surrounding racism, we are only talking to those who look like ourselves, it’s safe!  However, being safe is not going to solve, or resolve racism. We must  step out of our comfort zones, and oppose such violence. Because my life is enriched by diversity, with individuals who I love, and they love me, I have cultivated relationships built on complete acceptance, this has served to make it easier to have those difficult conversations. I encourage you to become committed to breaking down the walls which can separate us. This issue is allowed to continue to exist, because it’s painful. But look at the pain it causes by not dealing with it. Let’s agree to deal with it, let’s also agree not to come from a position of blame, guilt, or victimization, but from a position of love, and wanting to move forward to a better “America.” Together we can conquer this!

The forum is now open for discussion. “Pinky Love,” and “Pinky Love Brothers and Sisters,” I am depending on you to have the courage to start knocking down these walls of hate, and begin building walls of “love,” by your willingness to enter into a discussion about an issue which threatens to rip us apart at our very core values.

From My Heart to Your Heart,

Carole Carnie

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